It’s hard when you’re in your twenties and all people can seem to ask you is “When’re you going to find the guy?” or “When’re you going to get married?” Being an introverted only-child makes it even harder. When I get lonely I long for the companionship of a man who truly loves me. I have come to realize, however, that there is nothing wrong with being single. In fact, being single in your twenties can be a liberating experience. The real question that should be asked is “What are the positives of being single?”
You Get to Learn More About Yourself
I am one of those girls who makes her partner her world. I was in a serious relationship for about 4 years. In that relationship it got to the point where I began to lose my identity. I think that it would have been better for me to have waited a bit longer before getting into a relationship. Although I have my head screwed on and I know what I stand for, there was still so much for me to learn about myself before getting into a relationship. I am still in the discovery process, but I think that whenever I do find the right guy for me I will be better able to create a healthy relationship because I truly know who I am. I understand now that I need to be able to truly love myself before I can love anyone else.
You Have Freedom
When I say freedom I don’t mean that you’re free to have sex with random people and waste your life. Freedom in this sense means that you can pursue your dreams without having the burden of thinking about how doing this will affect your partner. You can travel to another country to start your dream job or go back to school to get that masters degree you’ve been wanting for so long. You have the freedom to explore new possibilities and frontiers. Although it is true that true partners in relationships support each other’s dreams, it becomes more difficult to do this when your partner is thousands of miles away. Distance puts strain on relationships and really isn’t worth it in the end.
You Have Less Drama in Your Life
Relationships are riddled with drama. No matter how much you trust your man, there is always something in the back of your mind making you wonder if he’s being faithful to you. Even if loyalty isn’t a problem you face in your relationship, there are a myriad of other problems that occur when two people are together. There can be a clash of personalities or disappointment when your man doesn’t meet up to your expectations all the time. There is just always something. Being single eliminates that drama.
If you’re single, don’t be hard on yourself and get depressed. Relish your single life. Learn more about yourself and do the things that you’ve always wanted to do. Enjoy life instead of waiting for someone to enjoy it with.