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The Value of Marriage

September 26, 2013 • Dating and Relationships

The Value of Marriage      

Author: Christine McLean

Life is short so why bog it down with the pressure and complexity of marriage? Marriage doesn’t necessarily prove love so why don’t two people just live together and experience “happily ever after”? Cott (2000) states that marriage is a form of public commitment and society places great importance on one’s marital status. Furthermore, the structure of marriage “organizes community life and facilitates the governments grasp on the populace” [1] and the law protects marriage by granting numerous benefits through “Social Security, tax policy, immigration and citizenship rights, military benefits, tax policies, and property rules”. [2]

Marriage means different things to people in different cultures. However, there is one common thread regardless of culture which is the fact that marriage is viewed as the social structure that determines mating and its consequences.[3] I believe that people in this era still understand the value of marriage for the reasons I outline below.

It Mirrors Commitment

Some people view marriage as the final step in the journey of their relationship. In front of whatever god you serve and either a multitude or handful of witnesses, you make vows to support each other regardless of the circumstances and remain faithful to each other till death. Making these vows in public should highlight the fact that you both are serious about the relationship and your commitment to each other. Granted, quite a few people don’t appreciate this commitment and end up destroying the marriage for various reasons, but this does not negate the fact that the concept of marriage is a public declaration of lifelong commitment.

It Provides Benefits

Let us stop for a minute and not look at the burdens marriage provides such as a demanding spouse, the pressure of raising children, and sometimes loneliness because either both or one partner isn’t carrying out his or her role effectively. If we look at the positives of marriage we will realize that it brings attractive benefits. In some jobs, people receive a spousal allowance and tax benefits when they get married. Marriage also creates a two income household which means that more money is available to make major purchases such as a home and a car. However, there are other benefits of marriage that are non-financial. Healthy marriages bring companionship. Yes, it is possible to experience great companionship without being married, but the fact is that the thought of having a man who is only yours and who has made a serious commitment to you greatly enhances how you experience each other. He becomes your life line, heartbeat, and the one you share every aspect of your life with. He helps you raise and provide stability for your children.

Happy married couple sitting on a bench
                                    © Photographer: Andriy Petrenko | Agency: Dreamstime.com

It Grants Security

For some people, marriage gives them purpose in life. It helps them to feel secure knowing that someone loves them for who they are and needs them. In other instances, it provides convenience. There are women who get married not because they love their husband, but because they love his wealth. For them, getting married provides them with the financial security they need to experience all of the luxuries they believe they deserve.

 

Although marriage isn’t necessary in this era, it is still deemed relevant. It should be viewed for what it really is….a public commitment between two people to support each other at all times and stay faithful to each other till death. Let’s stay true to this meaning and find men who will wholeheartedly make this commitment to us.

 


[1] Cott, N. F. (2000). Public vows: a history of marriage and the nation. United States: Harvard University Press.

[2] Cott, N. F. (2000). Public vows: a history of marriage and the nation. United States: Harvard University Press.

[3] Cultural anthropology/marriage, reproduction and kinship. (n.d.) Retrieved September 21, 2013, from http://en.wikibooks.org/wiki/Cultural_Anthropology/Marriage,_Reproduction_and_Kinship#Marriage.

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