Author: Lauren Kelli
Preparing to Leave
You’ve worked up the nerve to leave—this is huge. It takes a tremendous amount of courage and conviction to be able to leave an abuser. It’s not easy, but luckily there are a lot of people who want to help you and a lot of information available to aid you as well, but make sure to remember your tech safety tips
ê A good first step is calling the national hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (USA – please research the numbers for your country or look in the Resources List). They are trained counselors who provide crisis assistance and can direct you to information about shelters, legal advocacy, health care centers, and counseling.
ê This link provides a state-by-state list of domestic abuse resources. It’s a great place to start looking for information specific to your area.
ê www.womenslaw.org provides easy-to-understand legal information. They can tell you how to file a restraining order, where to download appropriate forms, and give you information on who to call and what resources are available in your area.
ê http://www.drphil.com/articles/page/DomesticViolenceResource/ is an awesome list of resources you can peruse and check out at your leisure.
ê Another great list can be found at http://www.thehotline.org/resources/online-resources/. It also contains a list of printed literature you can read.
When you’ve contacted all relevant people and organizations and you have a concrete plan to leave for good, don’t get hasty. Remember to bring the little things:
- Citizenship documents
- Property information
- Medical records
- Children’s school and immunization records
- Insurance information
- Birth certificates
- Verification of social security numbers
- Welfare identification
Make sure you know your partner’s schedule and plan your departure accordingly. Be strong, be brave, and good luck!